Humanity are sheep who haven't heard that phrase? And we pay lip service to it. Most of us? Still remember the history of the Middle Ages where women and the odd man were burned at the stake and mutilated, they were accused of being witches. People were indoctrinated and filled with the 'fear of God and eternal damnation.' The priests...
You can't control how people think about you. It's Impossible. But all you can do is control the way you think about yourself. Your opinion is all that matters
Self control is counter productive. it assumes a lack of trust . Rather than control we need a new viewpoint from which to experience life